THE ESSENTIALS OF A WORKING RELATIONSHIP

There is certainly no gainsaying the fact that the vexed issue of relationship, its fundamentals and successful operation has brought about a wide spectrum of opinion, sometimes misconception as to its genuine practicability and efficacy which has raised so much questions ranging from the sublime to the ridiculous. It is however imperative to state that to put the boat of the topic above in the right
direction, it is worthwhile to give a working definition of what we mean by relationship in this article.              

The term relationship is a word capable of many meanings depending on the perspective we examine it from. In the loose sense, it may refer to any form of closeness or affinity between two or more persons. In the strict sense, it may comprise such activities like dating,courtship and all that presupposes love and compassion between two opposite sex. In this respect,we refer to the term in the strict sense of it as we aptly refer to the kind of intimate rapport,communication and mutual affection between a male and a female ably spiced with affinity and compassion which may or may not end in marriage.

 Having stated the aforementioned, it is quintessential to assert that the topical issue of relationship and it essentials is mostly misconstrued by people owing to the attendant misunderstanding of its nature and idiosyncrasies.

At this juncture, it is pivotal we itemize the essentials of a working relationship
. 1. True Love
2. Trust
 3. Mutual understanding
 4. Constant Communication

 It is therefore fundamental to look at these essentials in turn.

 1. True Love Love simply denote the innate and genuine feelings of affection which partners have for each other. It must be a reflection of truth and total affection.It is important to state that nothing works without love and everything that works works by love. A relationship without love is doomed and hence such relationship is bound to fail. It may exist majorly in three forms such as erotic love which is characterised by sensual or sexual feelings, Philia love which is the brotherly love or the shoulder to shoulder relationship as it is fondly called and the Agape love which is a reminiscent of Jesus kind of love for us. It is the unselfish and selfless love.
 True love must be unconditional and of great value but what we see in every day practice as we have it is debasing and preposterous. A lot of broken homes, marriages and divorce cases are characterised by lack of love between couples. The mute point is crystal clear. For there to be true love, the three typology enunciated above must be embraced. None of it is mutually exclusive hence they must all be embraced. If erotic love alone is embraced, the answer we get is lust. Lust is strictly the sexual desire a person has towards his partner nothing more pretentious. Hence, love is so fundamental to a relationship and trying to have a relationship without it is like putting something on nothing.

 2. Trust This is the strong belief and confidence we have or show in the goodness, strength and reliability of something or somebody. The issue of trust is another factor which is collateral to the issue of love in a relationship. Most relationship lack trust because partners are so much soaked in impunity to the extent that they do not believe one another. The lack of trust in a relationship is very cancerous to the extent that its eat deep into d fabrics and the annals of a relationship. It is a process hence partners must learn to grow in trust just the way they also grow in love because it adds pep and vibe to a relationship and makes it as solid as a rock. So salient is the fact that trust must be mutual meaning that it must come from both sides.

 3. Mutual understanding The lack of the above factor has been the basis of so many divorce and judicial seperation cases in our courts today. This factor is secondary to the primary essentials of love and trust. Mutual understanding underscores the issue of compatibility test. Before venturing into a relationship, we must learn to understand our would be partner by examining his character closely and simply identifying if it combines with ours. Though this may be an arduous task, but the benefits therein outweighs the laborious task. We say lovers are compatible when they quite understand each other and simply know their attitudinal disposition very well. Without mutual understanding, a relationship is at the verge of its peril.

4. Constant Communication Let me be quick to lend credence to the aphorism 'presence sharpens love and absence strengthens it'. The place of communication cannot be jettisoned in a relationship and that is why we get to see that most distant relationship are mostly impaired by communication. Communication makes you know your partner better and makes you understand him. Infact, without communication, love, trust and understanding will go down the drain because communication stands like a pillar that holds the other essentials.

 In conclusion, there is succinctly no blinking the fact that a working relationship is such that embraces the aforementioned critical factors. Partners should therefore build a virile relationship and not a vicious one.